It’s easy to get absorbed in your own life, disappear into the endless laundry, letters from school, must get new shoes for the children, did you pick up that parcel, whats for dinner? Then something happens to remind you that there is more to this, a bigger picture, connections to make and enjoy.
My estranged biological father, (we will call him ABF, Absent Biological Father, I don’t like calling him Dad, that is a title that is earned in my opinion…) Well he remarried when I was very young and had another family, I knew he had children, but that was it, and not having any contact with any of his family I never really knew anything about them.
As I have explained in a previous post, I have never had a massive desire to contact ABF, but I didn’t think about his children when I wrote this post, I was talking about my direct relationship with him.
I was surprised by my own feeling when I got an e-mail saying, I think you might be my half sister!
A new connection another arm to my network, new siblings, a new aunt and uncle for my children, a niece, sister-in-law(S)? all these people connected to me, and maybe my disregard for ABF was unfair, maybe something really really good could unintentionally come from him? a new generations reconnected and rebuilding relationships, maybe making up for some of that lost time? I am getting ahead of myself here, it is very early days yet, and we are literally still learning the basics about each other. But I just wanted to share, I am excited, happy about the potential additions to my ramshackled family….
What more could you want, than a new brother and sister for christmas.
